How to diffuse a child’s tantrum with one question
When a tantrum starts — either because the doll’s arm came off, or because it’s time to go to bed, or because the homework did not come out the way she wanted, or because he did not want to do a chore — whatever the reason, we can ask them the following question, looking into their eyes and in a calm voice:
“Is this a big problem, a medium problem, or a small problem?”
What we want to bear is inversely correlated with what we need to hear in order to learn and to grow.
Communication problems, you have them when you don't know you have them, once you know then you don't have them.
How To Be Someone People Love To Talk To
Professor Stephen Ceci taught his class the way he had for the past 20 years, replicating nearly everything imaginable — except he started speaking with more enthusiasm. What happened?
His student ratings went up — in every single category. He was seen as more knowledgeable, more tolerant, more accessible, more organized. Students said they learned more. They felt the grading was fairer. They even said the textbook was better.
If you read the literature on what makes for a meaningful college experience, almost all of the literature stresses the way the student interacts with their institution: when I show up on campus on day one, how do I behave? Do I seek out the most interesting professors and take their classes? Do I willingly throw myself into the experience or do I smoke dope in my room? The variable is you, not the institution.
Hard choices: put choices on the list, try to find which one is the best. If you figure out that you can not then it is a hard problem. In that case, pick and commit to your choice. There are hard and small and hard and big problems.
Quality of to your education depends mainly on you, not that much on the school. There is this illusion that education is prepackaged consumer product that you passively take from the shelf which is wrong.
Never have so many people had so much access to so much knowledge and yet have been so resistant to learning anything.
Our economy is designed to transfer wealth and income into the pockets of those who need it least, and any opposition to this structural inequality is treated as political radicalism.
If you have the time to learn only one technique, this is the one to try. In coherent breathing, the goal is to breathe at a rate of five breaths per minute, which generally translates into inhaling and exhaling to the count of six. If you have never practiced breathing exercises before, you may have to work up to this practice slowly, starting with inhaling and exhaling to the count of three and working your way up to six.
Nobody listens to me in real life, but on the Internet everyone does. People need to be told to get to work on things. They need a boss so they stop making excuses.
“He seems uncommonly attentive to his son’s whims and moods, but he freely admits that it is a burden to have a child. This is not a value judgment but a statement of fact with regard to money, energy, and time.”
On Mr Moneymustache
Paying for parking is a sign from God that you’re in an area not designed for a car. You are fighting the design of your city.
It turns out that having the discipline to live frugally, to invest rather than spend, to mend and make do, and to be able to live for longer and longer periods of time without having to work, are true measures of wealth.
Sve što uradite umesto svog deteta, uradili ste protiv njega.
Here is what a ‘true and lucid consciousness of the situation’ of fatherhood might resemble: you watch wide-eyed as your beloved pushes a stranger out of a bodily orifice that seems altogether too small for the labour; when the gore is cleaned up, the stranger becomes your most intimate companion and life-long dependent; existence, from that day forward, is structured around this dependency; and then, if everything goes well, the child will grow up to no longer need you. At the end of the existential day, your tenure as a father will end in one of two ways: either your child will die or you will. As Kierkegaard writes in Either/Or (1843): ‘You will regret both.’
Raising children is an uncertain thing. Success is reached only after a life of battle and worry.
Pisan ima dramu u kojoj kaže oduzmi običnom čoveku životnu laž i oduzeo si mu životnu sreću.
The scientific mind is not closed: it is merely well-guarded by a conscientious and seldom sleeping gatekeeper.
Četiri jahača lokalne apokalipse - glupost, primitivizam, laž i pohlepa.